Thank you for taking the time to learn more about me and what I’m doing. When Donnie died, after twenty-seven years of marriage, I found myself lost and unbalanced.  Donnie was only fifty-three and I never thought I would be a widow at the age of fifty.

I had to re-think my future and I ask myself – “What do I do now?”  I started by talking to other widows and hearing their journeys of grief and healing. Each story gave me some tip or advice that I used for my own grief and healing.

I wrote the book "The Sisterhood of Widows" from the stories the widows shared with me. Before I knew it I was getting certified as a Grief Recovery Specialist, Law of Attraction Facilitator and Early Intervention Field Traumatologist. 

I coach organizations, small groups and individuals about how life changes when you lose someone you love.  I provide tips and advice about real life and that grief is a journey that we travel as we heal.

I believe that when men and women are able to think, talk, write and cry about the loss of their loved ones, they will find healing.  Healing comes from mutual support, sharing our journeys and understanding our own grief experiences. I provide some advice and just a bit of real life so that you can see that grief has a process.  It is different and yet the same if your loss is a parent, spouse, child or a cherished friend.  It is important to recognize the uniqueness of your own grief journey.

One thing for sure, if you open yourself up to the possibilities of life, you just don’t know where it can lead you.  So, don’t be afraid.  The worse has already happened – you have lost your loved one - so from now on, go after life with all you have.  No one knows better than you just how fast life can be gone, so don’t hold back.

The Latest From Mary’s Blog

  • Forgive – Yes, You Can!
    by Mary Francis on February 15, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    No one is perfect and we are certainly not ourselves when we lose someone we love. When you do make a mistake acknowledge it, but don’t hold onto it for the rest of your life. If you hurt someone in … Read Mor […]

  • Valentine’s Day As A Widow
    by Mary Francis on February 12, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    As I approach valentine’s day without my husband I think about being single in a world I once knew as a couple. I think that searching and believing in a soul mate can be dysfunctional and can even compound loneliness. … Read Mor […]

  • Kids Who Don’t Want Mom Dating
    by Mary Francis on February 8, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    What about a widow who starts dating a great guy and is having fun, feeling like a teenager again – but her two teenagers aren’t pleased? They become angry and start treating her in a mean way. This widow is … Read Mor […]

  • Toxic Friendships
    by Mary Francis on February 5, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    Friendships often change when we become a widow, some friends drift away because they were part of your couple friendships and some drift because they just can’t handle your grief. In both cases, let them go. But what about the … Read Mor […]

  • Do You Want To Date?
    by Mary Francis on February 4, 2018 at 12:39 pm

    You’re a smart and warmhearted woman with lots to give and you are missing the love you used to have with your husband. You know what it’s like to have a life with someone to love and you wonder about … Read Mor […]

  • It’s Hard To Say Goodby
    by Mary Francis on February 1, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    It’s hard to say good-bye to our husbands, but putting off meaningful conversations is perhaps the number one source of regret. Spend time telling them what they mean to you. Dying people want to hear four very specific messages from … Read Mor […]

  • You’re Changing – Can Others Handle It?
    by Mary Francis on January 29, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    We live in social systems that call for continuous and complex interconnections. A widow who undergoes a dramatic shift creates a ripple effect, requiring change from those around her, and it isn’t always acceptable to them. The problem, as you … Read Mor […]

  • Treat Yourself With Dignity
    by Mary Francis on January 25, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    It’s time to make some changes and a good start is acknowledging the good and bad in your life. Write down a declaration that in this New Year you will make a conscious effort to treat yourself with dignity and … Read Mor […]

  • Recovering From Trauma
    by Mary Francis on January 22, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    Widows need to talk, to share their stories and memories. Fortunately, most of us know that talking to a compassionate person can help heal our emotional pain, but if along with grief we carry anger and bitterness, we can get … Read Mor […]

  • Widows – Do You Have A Secret?
    by Mary Francis on January 18, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    When we keep a secret there is almost always shame involved, either for others or for ourselves. As widows we know that coming clean can be risky. It can expose real vulnerabilities and damage relationships. But it’s a New Year … Read Mor […]