Thank you for taking the time to learn more about me and what I’m doing. When Donnie died, after twenty-seven years of marriage, I found myself lost and unbalanced.  Donnie was only fifty-three and I never thought I would be a widow at the age of fifty.

I had to re-think my future and I ask myself – “What do I do now?”  I started by talking to other widows and hearing their journeys of grief and healing. Each story gave me some tip or advice that I used for my own grief and healing.

I wrote the book "The Sisterhood of Widows" from the stories the widows shared with me. Before I knew it I was getting certified as a Grief Recovery Specialist, Law of Attraction Facilitator and Early Intervention Field Traumatologist. 

I coach organizations, small groups and individuals about how life changes when you lose someone you love.  I provide tips and advice about real life and that grief is a journey that we travel as we heal.

I believe that when men and women are able to think, talk, write and cry about the loss of their loved ones, they will find healing.  Healing comes from mutual support, sharing our journeys and understanding our own grief experiences. I provide some advice and just a bit of real life so that you can see that grief has a process.  It is different and yet the same if your loss is a parent, spouse, child or a cherished friend.  It is important to recognize the uniqueness of your own grief journey.

One thing for sure, if you open yourself up to the possibilities of life, you just don’t know where it can lead you.  So, don’t be afraid.  The worse has already happened – you have lost your loved one - so from now on, go after life with all you have.  No one knows better than you just how fast life can be gone, so don’t hold back.

The Latest From Mary’s Blog

  • Widows and Estate Planning
    by Mary Francis on September 15, 2017 at 1:28 am

    When you die, all your important documents need to be found – the will, birth certificate, life insurance policies, pension information, bank details and more. Have ownership papers for specific assets and property in with your other important papers. You … Read Mor […]

  • Widows Embracing Life
    by Mary Francis on September 11, 2017 at 11:00 am

    Ten years ago I became a widow going through a dark season of grief.  I read that reconnecting with my inner child is a terrific way to heal my wounds.  But instead I have become absolutely fixed upon my “inner … Read Mor […]

  • We Need Positive People
    by Mary Francis on September 8, 2017 at 7:01 pm

    I enjoy encouraging widows to seek out the positive in life by listening to others with the intent to find good about what they are saying or doing. If you tune into the positive, you will get clues about what … Read Mor […]

  • Widows That Vent
    by Mary Francis on September 4, 2017 at 8:08 pm

    You’re lonely without your spouse and yes, there is no going back. And, just for now, complaining can make you feel better – if done within limits. The very word “vent” tells us that letting off some pressure is cathartic. … Read Mor […]

  • Widows Starting Work Again
    by Mary Francis on September 1, 2017 at 11:00 am

    Many women make the decision to stay home once the children start coming.  Their husband is the main income and they cut back on expenses so that they can have that life style.  That is great, but then suddenly their … Read Mor […]

  • Happiness is Being Connected
    by Mary Francis on August 30, 2017 at 10:20 am

    No matter what life deals you, there is always going to be a little “hole” if you don’t include spirituality. We need connections– with people, animals, nature and life. Research shows that the happiest people are the ones who are … Read Mor […]

  • A Widow’s Attitude
    by Mary Francis on August 27, 2017 at 1:40 am

    Why is it so much easier to be negative than positive? I know that the choice is mine and that the consequences of being negative, is frustration and unhappiness. So the question is “How do I train myself to be … Read Mor […]

  • A Widow’s First Year
    by Mary Francis on August 22, 2017 at 1:16 pm

    Every widow is unique and responds to grief and healing at her own pace. It is essential never to compare one widow to another. Each and every widow has her own individual beliefs about how to deal with her feelings … Read Mor […]

  • Honour Your Memories
    by Mary Francis on August 19, 2017 at 1:22 pm

    There are many ways to honour those that we have loved and lost: Give your grief its voice by expressing your loss. Display photographs. Restore old or tattered pictures. Donate to a worthy cause in their honor. Enjoy your memories. … Read Mor […]

  • Talking About Dying
    by Mary Francis on August 14, 2017 at 11:00 am

    Talking about dying is very difficult. I remember when Donnie and I found out that he had cancer. We didn’t talk about his possible death; it was as if we could delay or even elude it if we didn’t talk … Read Mor […]