Thank you for taking the time to learn more about me and what I’m doing. When Donnie died, after twenty-seven years of marriage, I found myself lost and unbalanced. Donnie was only fifty-three and I never thought I would be a widow at the age of fifty.
I had to re-think my future and I ask myself – “What do I do now?” I started by talking to other widows and hearing their journeys of grief and healing. Each story gave me some tip or advice that I used for my own grief and healing.
I wrote the book "The Sisterhood of Widows" from the stories the widows shared with me. Before I knew it I was getting certified as a Grief Recovery Specialist, Law of Attraction Facilitator and Early Intervention Field Traumatologist.
I coach organizations, small groups and individuals about how life changes when you lose someone you love. I provide tips and advice about real life and that grief is a journey that we travel as we heal.
I believe that when men and women are able to think, talk, write and cry about the loss of their loved ones, they will find healing. Healing comes from mutual support, sharing our journeys and understanding our own grief experiences. I provide some advice and just a bit of real life so that you can see that grief has a process. It is different and yet the same if your loss is a parent, spouse, child or a cherished friend. It is important to recognize the uniqueness of your own grief journey.
One thing for sure, if you open yourself up to the possibilities of life, you just don’t know where it can lead you. So, don’t be afraid. The worse has already happened – you have lost your loved one - so from now on, go after life with all you have. No one knows better than you just how fast life can be gone, so don’t hold back.
The Latest From Mary’s Blog
Bad Case of Holiday Anxiety
by Mary Francis on November 18, 2017 at 12:56 am
Holiday anxiety is as predictable as overspending on gifts, duty visits, sugar treats and decorations. And we shouldn’t take it lightly, especially when we are grieving. Holiday stress can be the last straw to our weakened immune system, lack of … Read Mor […]
Holidays Tips for Widows
by Mary Francis on November 16, 2017 at 3:20 pm
During the holiday season grieving is even more difficult so here are a few tips to help you: • A lot of traditions are no longer possible when a loved one dies. Keep what traditions you can and be willing … Read Mor […]
Music to Heal
by Mary Francis on November 13, 2017 at 12:00 pm
Just about everyone I know is going through some kind of loss – we’re at an age where we’re losing friends, parents and older family members. We can channel our emotional journey with songs – songs move us forward with … Read Mor […]
After a Few Years – What Then?
by Mary Francis on November 12, 2017 at 5:37 pm
We have only a limited time on this earth and we need to face the reality that our life goes on after the death of our loved one. When we do, that constant awareness of the limit of our time … Read Mor […]
by Mary Francis on October 30, 2017 at 7:53 pm
If your a recent widow, you are just getting by minute by minute – then hour by hour – day by day – week by week until you finally can do month by month without breaking down. If you can … Read Mor […]
by Mary Francis on October 27, 2017 at 1:50 pm
Today is the funeral for one of the widows in our “Chick’s Night Out” local group. She wasn’t 60 yet and had been fighting cancer long before the sudden death of her partner. She lost not only the love of … Read Mor […]
The Unknown World of a Widow
by Mary Francis on October 23, 2017 at 6:13 pm
As widows we start our healing by allowing the unknown, being open to a world of possibilities. As scary as that can be, it’s the only way to find out what you really want. Staying tied up in our past … Read Mor […]
by Mary Francis on October 16, 2017 at 7:19 pm
When our spouses were alive, we were more content to sit around on a Saturday night to watch TV and eat leftovers. But now they are gone and loneliness is our new companion. So our desire to get out increases … Read Mor […]
The Goal For Widows
by Mary Francis on October 10, 2017 at 4:19 pm
It’s hard to go from being a wife to a widow and even harder to think of our future without them. But if we have only one goal it needs to be to reinvent our lives without them, while still … Read Mor […]
by Mary Francis on October 7, 2017 at 1:55 pm
We widows need the support of those around us but we sometimes find it hard to express our need. Below is advice for you to share with those who care about you: • Listen to me. • Allow me to … Read Mor […]