Thank you for taking the time to learn more about me and what I’m doing. When Donnie died, after twenty-seven years of marriage, I found myself lost and unbalanced.  Donnie was only fifty-three and I never thought I would be a widow at the age of fifty.

I had to re-think my future and I ask myself – “What do I do now?”  I started by talking to other widows and hearing their journeys of grief and healing. Each story gave me some tip or advice that I used for my own grief and healing.

I wrote the book "The Sisterhood of Widows" from the stories the widows shared with me. Before I knew it I was getting certified as a Grief Recovery Specialist, Law of Attraction Facilitator and Early Intervention Field Traumatologist. 

I coach organizations, small groups and individuals about how life changes when you lose someone you love.  I provide tips and advice about real life and that grief is a journey that we travel as we heal.

I believe that when men and women are able to think, talk, write and cry about the loss of their loved ones, they will find healing.  Healing comes from mutual support, sharing our journeys and understanding our own grief experiences. I provide some advice and just a bit of real life so that you can see that grief has a process.  It is different and yet the same if your loss is a parent, spouse, child or a cherished friend.  It is important to recognize the uniqueness of your own grief journey.

One thing for sure, if you open yourself up to the possibilities of life, you just don’t know where it can lead you.  So, don’t be afraid.  The worse has already happened – you have lost your loved one - so from now on, go after life with all you have.  No one knows better than you just how fast life can be gone, so don’t hold back.

The Latest From Mary’s Blog

  • Widows – Do You Have A Secret?
    by Mary Francis on January 18, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    When we keep a secret there is almost always shame involved, either for others or for ourselves. As widows we know that coming clean can be risky. It can expose real vulnerabilities and damage relationships. But it’s a New Year … Read Mor […]

  • Financial Advice for Widows
    by Mary Francis on January 15, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    As widows we have learned quite painfully, that life is full of unexpected potholes. That’s why we need to plan for the unforeseen – even more so, now that we are on our own. So your first task is to … Read Mor […]

  • Widows Joining Forces
    by Mary Francis on January 11, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    Widows are like everyone else when it comes to wanting their New Year to be better. And the best way to succeed is to join forces with people that may have different opinions than you. Every year, by February, most … Read Mor […]

  • A Widow’s High Anxiety
    by Mary Francis on January 8, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    You are smart, successful, popular – and a new widow. Your anxiety may begin in a bad dream, where you wake up to a messy bed and waves of worry that won’t let you go back to sleep. You get … Read Mor […]

  • Anywhere but Here
    by Mary Francis on January 4, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    This is a simple story: I became a widow at fifty, and my life changed in ways that are not easy to explain, even to myself. We all invent ourselves, more or less consciously, out of what we are and … Read Mor […]

  • A Widow’s New Year 2018
    by Mary Francis on December 31, 2017 at 12:00 pm

    If you choose to bring in the New Year by yourself than do it in style. Try a glass of champagne or wine with double buttered popcorn and a favorite movie. I suggest a motivational movie like: Sea Biscuit, Rocky, … Read Mor […]

  • Soon Christmas Will Be Over
    by Mary Francis on December 24, 2017 at 12:42 pm

    The whole holiday season is hard when you’re a widow. But as you struggled through it, did you do something kind for someone or been on the receiving end of a thoughtful gesture? When you share something, even a small … Read Mor […]

  • A Widow’s Gift to The World
    by Mary Francis on December 22, 2017 at 12:42 pm

    Forget about what’s possible and what’s impossible. Let your mind drift as you think about all the possibilities. Here are a few worldly gifts to get you thinking: • The gift of understanding and not being too quick to judge … Read Mor […]

  • Christmas Music to Help Widows
    by Mary Francis on December 21, 2017 at 2:33 am

    I get it, Christmas is stressful for Widows – I know because I’m a widow just like you. One stress buster I use is listening to Christmas jazz or other mellow music for 30 minutes as it can trigger the … Read Mor […]

  • Widows and Christmas Spending
    by Mary Francis on December 18, 2017 at 4:06 pm

    Marketing is setup to make us feel like scrooge if we don’t shower our loved ones with gifts. As widows we sometimes buy into the idea that our love is shown in the value of our gifts. Please know that … Read Mor […]